When we fail, we pity ourselves, have a consolation cookie or three, give up, and go back to a moribund contentment with the status quo. Maybe next year, we’ll be more serious, we think. More determined. Yes, we’ll try it all again at some future point when we can muster up the will to give it another go. This is all wrong. For me, difficulty in realizing goals has never been due to a lack of desire or will.